Author Archives: B.F.C.

About B.F.C.

What has caused me the greatest pain has become a great gift and comfort to others. A lover of theology and philosophy who also teaches anger management. I don't think out of the box... for me there is no box. I am a rebel and always ask "Who sets the rules? A rebel in our culture.. has empathy, compassion and understanding for those who are "hand cuffed" by shame and made to feel they don't fit in and never will. Wisdom and love are often counter intuitive to the flow of the culture, If that is the case, I don't think I want to fit in. "When you aint got nothin.... You aint got nothing to lose" ~Bob Dylan

Mood Log: Exposing the Triggers of Self Defeat

Even though self defeating  actions and feelings seem to appear out of thin air, they always have a trigger. Most of us would not think of analyzing and dissecting every mood change on a daily basis, if we did our emotional triggers would be … Continue reading

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Forgiving God II : Shame and Forgiving Yourself

Leaving your home church can be a stressful mixed bag of emotions. Leaving a dysfunctional, controlling and very condemning church is a complete crisis.  Were there good people who loved God in that church? Absolutely. When you leave a church like … Continue reading

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Forgiving God: Expectations and Resentments

It is possible to hold a grudge or become bitter at someone without having all the facts. One may feel justified in their anger towards another based simply on a false perception of a situation. Many times when all the facts are … Continue reading

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What to do.. If you are not able to forgive?

If you have tried many times to forgive someone and feel you just can’t. This simple outline may open the door for you. Forgiveness is counter intuitive for most people and usually only achieved after years of vexation.  * What … Continue reading

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What to do when your brain gets… “High-Jacked”

Walking along a hiking trail out of the corner of your eye you see a bear or a snake lunging at you. For a split second you could describe in detail the color and size of the apparent threat, distinct markings the … Continue reading

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Anger: The Unpopular Emotion

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